5 reason why your man must stopHaving sex with you

Ladies, See Top 5 Reasons Why Your Man May Stop Having $ex With You

While s*x is highly physical for men, and very important in relationships expecially marriages, the more mature a man becomes, the more there seems to be to his s*xual story.

Below are 4 + 1 major reasons why your man may not be “bedmatically” active the way he used to,

1. He is embarrassed about a health issue: Maybe his mind is telling him YES, but it’s possible things like erectile dysfunction, prostate cancer or depression, might have his body telling him NO.

Now I’m not saying that his pride and his unwillingness to get help is an excuse; but I am saying this might be a key reason and you should work together to make sure everything is functioning properly. I’ve actually known a wife or two to just go ahead and set the appointment and then tell him to show up!

2. He isn’t attracted to you anymore: Okay I know this will be the controversial point that can be taken the wrong way, but nevertheless it’s a reality. YES, I know he should “love you for who you are” and that maybe you gained some weight or had some health issues or any number of things; but it doesn’t take away from the fact that maybe he has lost some of the attraction he had for you.

It could also be that the tension between the two of you emotionally or mentally has caused some divide, and it’s become harder for him to want to be intimate with you.
The question becomes whether your relationship is strong enough to survive this reality or whether you are even able to have this conversation openly and without defensiveness.
Could he really tell you this and offer some solutions without getting punished in other areas or without being met with passive aggression?

What if the conversation started something like this: “Babe, I love you and I am committed to you and our marriage, and I want us to work on being more s*xual again. One thing that is causing a little bit of a barrier is the fact that you’ve continued to put on weight and it’s a little unattractive for me. Now I still want to be intimate with you as my wife, but could we work together on a plan to each become a little more physically fit so we can both desire each other more?”

Okay, I know that sounds good, but most men don’t think such a conversation will go over well or at least without the response being nothing short of all hell breaking loose.
“Well if you would just……..then I wouldn’t look like this; oh and look at you, you aren’t necessarily as sexy as you used to be either.”
Is your relationship strong enough to address the deep issues that you may consider shallow??

3. He’s lost his confidence: For many men, s*x is all about confidence. If we feel like we are satisfying you then we will want to keep doing it. On the flipside, if we sense s*x with us is just another task for you, or if you are not engaged and come across as more worried about us finishing so that you can get to choir practice, then, sometimes our confidence goes out the window.

Ladies, I know you think that for us it is all about an climax but trust me when I tell you a man wants to satisfy his wife. Fellas, if your confidence is wavering, are you willing to have that vulnerable and open conversation about why that’s so? Are you willing to let your wife know what’s going on instead of just becoming distant or seeking other women to satisfy that confidence boost? Hmmmm.

4. He has made it less of a priority: Just like anything in a relationship or in life, what you focus on is what will grow. If you both get too busy for one another for an extended amount of time, it becomes difficult to just turn on the intimacy switch.
Maybe you became engulfed with work and the kids. Maybe he has made his new project or organization a huge priority. In the midst of all of this, the shift in energy caused some emotional division.

Nevertheless, you both have to be conscious of what’s happening and then go back to making s*x and intimacy a upriority. The longer you let it go, the harder it will be to get it back.

5. There’s someone else: Yes, I know no one want’s to hear it, but sometimes, YES, there is someone else in the picture satisfying the needs of your mate. This is why I believe that in any relationship you have to communicate early and often with your mate about any of these issues.
We must also learn to identify when a relationship is headed for trouble. That “work spouse” needs to be kept at a distance so that you can tend to your real wife or husband.
These are just a few reasons that your husband might not be as gung-ho about s*x with you as you would like. Men must communicate these things often and women must be open to hearing the truth.


wonderfull defition 

1. SCHOOL : A place where
Parents pay and children play.
2. LIFE INSURANCE : A contract
that keeps you poor all your life
so that you can die Rich.
3. NURSE : A person who wakes
u up to give you sleeping pills.
4. MARRIAGE : It’s an agreement
in which a man loses his
bachelor degree and a woman
gains her masters..
5. TEAR : The hydraulic force by
which masculine willpower is
defeated by feminine
6. CONFERENCE : The confusion
of one man multiplied by the
number present.
7. FATHER : A banker provided by
8. CRIMINAL : A person no
different from the rest ….except
that he/she got caught.
9. BOSS : Someone who is early
when you are late and late when
you are early !!!!
10. POLITICIAN : One who
shakes your hand before
elections and your Confidence
11. DOCTOR : A person who
holds your ills by pills, and kills
you by bills.

Life Fact

Stop using past gauge

Stop using your past to gauge
whether or not
love is coming into your life.
Stop looking back if you are
really looking forward to having
someone special one day. When
you look back on
your past, you should be looking
back with a
mindset of learning from your
mistakes. You should be looking
back remembering that what
you have been through, will
always aid you
towards growing into a better
person. Stop feeling like you are
cursed or that you have bad
luck because you have been
through a few bad
situations with a few bad people.
All of us go through trials. All of
us have been through a
few things designed to break our
spirit, faith
and beliefs. However, life always
gives us the gift of redemption
and the gift of bouncing
back. You could be hurting today
and end up being happy
tomorrow. Don’t be so hard on
yourself. Learn to be more
proud, patient and
positive as great things start to
take place in
your life.


Empty pocket s teach

1. Empty Pockets Teach Millons
of Things in Life.
BUT Full Pockets Spoil Us in
Million Ways.
2. TRUST is like a Sticker. Once it
is Removed, it
may Stick again, but not as
Strong as it Holds
when U First Applied.
3. Always take Care of
RELATIONS. Thats why
they say, when U are in Doubt,
‘SILENCE’ is the
Best Policy.
4. Never Win People with
Arguments. rather
Defeat Them with Ur Smile.
Because People who
always Wish to Argue with U,
cannot Bear Ur
5. If a Drop of Water falls on a
Lake, its Identity
is Lost. BUT If a Drop of Water
falls on a Lotus
Leaf, it Shines like a Pearl. Drop
is the Same, but
the ‘COMPANY’ matters.
6. Our HOPES should be like
matter how many times they get
Cut, but they
never stop Growing. That is why
they say, Always
Hope for the Best, however Bad
the Situation may
7. ‘MEMORIES’ are always
Special. Sometimes,
We Laugh by Remembering the
days We Cried.
& Sometimes, We Cry by
Remembering the days
We Laughed. Thats LIFE.

Life Fact

25 awasome tips

1. Take a 10-30 minute walk
every day. & while
you walk, SMILE. It is the
ultimate antidepressant.
2. Sit in silence for at least 10
minutes each day.
3. When you wake up in the
morning, Pray to ask
God’s guidance for your purpose,
4. Drink green tea and plenty of
water. Eat
blueberries, broccoli, and
6. Try to make at least three
people smile each
7. Don’t waste your precious
energy on gossip,
energy vampires, issues of the
past, negative
thoughts or things you cannot
control. Instead
invest your energy in the positive
present moment.
8. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch
like a prince and
dinner like a college kid with a
maxed out charge
9. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
10. Life is too short to waste time
hating anyone.
Forgive them for everything !
11. Don’t take yourself so
seriously. No one else
12. You don’t have to win every
argument. Agree
to disagree.
13. Make peace with your past so
it won’t spoil
the present.
14. Don’t compare your life to
others. You have no
idea what their journey is all
15. No one is in charge of your
happiness except
16. Frame every so-called
disaster with these
words: ‘In five years, will this
17. Help the needy, Be
generous ! Be a ‘Giver’ not
a ‘Taker’.
18. What other people think of
you is none of your
19. Time heals everything.
20. However good or bad a
situation is, it will
21. Your job won’t take care of
you when you are
sick. Your friends will. Stay in
22. Envy is a waste of time. You
already have all
you need.
23. Each night before you go to
bed ,Pray to God
and Be thankful for what you’ll
accomplish, today !
24. Remember that you are too
blessed to be
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25. Must Share this to everyone
on your list to help them lead a
happier life…


For the guys how to date abroke girl

For Guys; How To Date A
Broke Babe Without Having

The apprehension about dating
broke people is so real.
Men are becoming pickier when
it comes to financial capabilities
of potential partners. No guy
wants to be with a babe who
sees no problem in depending
totally on him.
While you should avoid this type
of women at all costs, you can’t
also refuse to be with every good
woman you come across
because she is broke.
It’s OK to get a woman who’ll
help reduce the financial load
that comes with being in a
relationship, or having a family.
At the same time, if you find
yourself a lady who makes you
happy, ticks the boxes for all or a
significant part of your
requirements, you can’t shut up
your heart to the amazing
possibilities because she’s broke.
If you love her and she has the
right mentality, if her potential
shines through and she has the
right work ethic to match it, my
guy, it won’t be long before
things click in gear for her.
following the tips below, you can
make things work:
There’ll be pitfalls in her journey
to greatness, fam, youhave to
hold her hand through some of
1. Be sensitive to her needs
You can’t close your eyes to your
girl’s needs in this kind of
relationship. Even if she does
not ask or if you can’t do
everything for her, just check
out the most pressing ones you
can handle and do them for her.
It’s best if she never has to ask
before you do these things. Keep
your eyes peeled and your ears
open because she might not ask
for your help, but you really
need to be sensitive.
2. Be kind with your words
Every guy owes his woman the
duty of being gentle and
respectful to her. But for you,
the duty is even more
You can’t have yourself saying
stuff to her that will make her
feel disrespected because you
are helping her with some of her
bills. No, man, you can’t do that.
Oh yes, a good woman would
understand that there are
moments of weakness when
you’d say stuff you don’t mean.
But it’s better to not even say
those things at all than to hope
she understands that your
hurtful, disrespectful words are
unconnected to the fact that you
are helping her in some way.
Support that girl’s dreams, fam.
3. Believe in her
You’ve got to believe in her if
you are going to take a chance
on building a life together with
If, instead of a trophy wife, you
need a supportive partner who’ll
really be involved in your life,
and with whom you intend to
build a beautiful, grand future,
then you must believe in her.
You must believe in her ability to
help you grow and to grow with
4. Support her dreams
You need to fire the embers of
her drive for success, you need
to cheer her on no matter the
amount of setbacks she faces in
her effort to better herself.
You need to be there to pick her
up each time she falls.
Come on, man. You need to
support your girl’s dream and
her push for greatness.
Am glad you like my post.


Do you know

1. The happiest people don’t
have the best things,
they just appreciate the things
that they have.
2. Don’t chase people. Be you, do
your own thing
and work hard. The right people
who belong in
your life will come to you, and
3. Respect yourself enough to
walk away from
anything that no longer makes
you happy.
4. Know your worth. Don’t let
people take
advantage of you.
5. Not everyone will make it to
your future. Some
people are just passing through
to teach you
lessons in life.
6. We don’t meet people by
accident, they are
meant to cross our path for a
7. When you stop chasing, they
start noticing.
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Ahusband was praying

A husband was praying 1 night..
“My God, 4 the past 1yr, I’v been
going to work
everyday for 8hrs & all my wife
does is sit at
home, doing NOTHING! I want
her to know that
making money is hard. Could U
please change our
bodies, so that she
can get a feeling of wat it takes
to be a man?”
Then God granted his wish.The
next morning, he
woke up as a woman.
So he(now she)
1. wakes up the children
2. Makes their beds
3. Gives them a bath and dresses
them ready for
4. Makes breakfast for d family
5. Fills the children’s lunch boxes
6. Fills the laundry machine
7. Drives kids to school
8. Stopped at the bank on his
way back
9. Drives to the supermarket for
grocery shopping.
10. Comes home, unpacks and
stores shopping
13. Cooks lunch
14. Takes a 20mins nap.
15. Gets clothes off the washer
to the dryer .
16. Vacuums, dusts, sweeps and
washes the floor
17. Drives back to school to pick
up kids 18.
Empties kids bag packs, changes
uniforms and serves them lunch.
19. Empties the dryer and do…
es some ironing
20. Makes dinner for family
21. Takes a shower
22. Husband comes back from
work after hanging
out with friends.
She kisses him, loosens his tie
and helps him
with his jacket.
23. Serves dinner, clears the
table and kitchen.
24. Fills the dishwasher
25. Helps kids with homework
26. Puts kids to bed, then she
goes to bed….
27. Gets up at 1am 2check on d
kids 28. Rises
@4am 2pray She’s expected to:
29. Wash her own car or drive it
to the car wash
30. Ensure the kids are always
looking neat and
31. No time 2 socialise or hang
out with friends
32. Look her best, with hair,
nails, makeup, etc in
The next morning, he got up &
with back to his
knees praying…
“My God,I don’t know what I was
thinking. Please
resume our original bodies
Then God replied
“My son, i’m afraid u have to
wait for another
12-15months. U got pregnant
last night. )) I
will have to restore things back
after u have put to
bed,nursed d
baby &seen your first
GOD Bless all the Hard Working
women, mothers,
ladies, sisters and girls!

Life Fact

8 reason why parent felt to love there kids

8 Reasons Parents Fail
to Love Their Kids
Parental love
enhances the
wellbeing and
of children.
As such,
“love” would
be all that is
nurturing and
supportive of the evolution of a
child’s unique personality.
Conversely, it would be a
distortion to define as “loving”
those responses that are in any
way detrimental to the child’s
psychological growth, cause
painful wounds to the child’s
psyche, or predispose a lifetime
of maladaptation and pain.
Parental love includes genuine
expressions of warmth—a
smile or friendly look that
conveys empathy and good
humor; physical affection;
respectful, considerate
treatment; tenderness; a
willingness to be a real person
with the child as opposed to
acting the role of “mother” or
“father”; and a sensitive
attunement and responsiveness
to the child. Attuned parents
have the ability to adjust the
intensity and emotional tone of
their responses to match their
child’s feeling state and
needs. During infancy, attuned
interactions between a baby
and its mother (or primary
caregiver) are especially
important because they provide
the baby with the environment
necessary for learning how to
regulate emotions and for
developing empathy.
In my observation of families, I
have noted countless examples
of well-meaning parents
engaging in behavior that is
insensitive, mis-attuned, or
harmful to their children, while
earnestly believing that they
love them and have their best
interests at heart. These
parents are telling the truth,
although on a defensive level,
when they tell their adult
children who have been
emotionally hurt that they
loved them and did the best
they could for them. It’s true:
They did the best that they
were capable of, but more
often than not, they simply
weren’t able to really see their
child as a separate person and
meet his or her needs. No
matter how well-intentioned,
many people are unfortunately
not prepared for the task of
raising children.
There are 8 reasons why it’s
often difficult for parents to
love their children.
1. Many parents have a
negative self-image which
they unwittingly extend to
their children.
If they cannot love themselves,
or have developed a negative
conception of themselves and
their bodies, and extend this
shame and negativity to their
productions, they cannot pass
on love and tenderness to this
remarkable creation of theirs.
In general, people who do not
really like themselves are
incapable of genuinely loving
other people, especially their
children. In fact, they are more
likely to project their negative
feelings onto others, and there
is no better dumping ground
for our negative perceptions of
ourselves than our
2. Parents who are
undeveloped or immature
experience their children as
an unwanted, intimidating
dependency load.
They find it threatening to bear
the responsibility and extensive
care that the baby and
developing child require and
may even come to resent their
3. Many people find it
difficult or intolerable to
accept love—in particular,
the simple direct loving
expressions of children.
If the parents were hurt in their
developmental years, they will
have problems accepting love
and intimacy from their
children. Faced with the
emotional pain that it causes
them, parents will
unconsciously distance
themselves from their child.
4. Parents have unresolved
trauma in their own lives.
If so, they will tend to be mis-
attuned to their children,
especially when their children
approach periods in their lives
that were traumatic for the
parent. They may react by
becoming rejecting, or they
may overcompensate. Neither
reaction is appropriate to, or
constructive for, the child. For
example, a parent who cannot
bear to be reminded of his own
childhood sadness may be
vindictive or punishing to his
children when they cry.
Another parent may suppress
her children’s pain in just the
opposite way—by over-
comforting and over-protecting
them. In any case, the child is
always more expendable than
the parent’s defense system.
The more self‑protective a
person is, the more he or she
will act out his or her defenses
on the child and progressively
fail to perceive the child
correctly and encourage
healthy development.
5. Having children reminds
parents that time is passing
and tends to increase their
death anxiety.
This can cause tension and
even resentment in the parent
and a self-protective, defensive
retreat from feeling that is
directly or indirectly hurtful to
their children.
6. Parents tend to use their
children as immortality
projects, which has a
destructive effect on their
In order to serve this purpose,
children must replicate their
parent’s attitudes and
choices. If they differ, their
independent actions are
misinterpreted as defiant or
rebellious. Parents try to
impose sameness on their
children because they can’t live
on through their children if the
children are different from
them. For example, if you are
religious and your child is a
non-believer; or if you are a
Democrat and your child is a
Republican, your child no
longer serves that necessary
function. Obviously, impressing
sameness is highly damaging to
children. Each child is
genetically different and has a
unique agenda and personal
7. Parents’ unfulfilled
primitive hunger for love and
care from their childhood
causes them, in turn, to focus
these strong desires on their
They confuse the powerful
feelings of longing and
possession they have toward
their offspring for genuine
feelings of love. Children who
are caressed by a hungry and
needy parent will not feel
“seen,” understood, or secure,
but instead will become
refractory to physical touch.
The “loving” fingers of the
immature parent are felt as
possessive, sucking tentacles,
which drain the children rather
than nurture them. This type of
parent will cause children to
have feelings of being trapped
or suffocated by close
relationships in later life. As
adults, they may experience
affection as physical or
psychological pain.
8. Due to inadequate or
problematic parenting styles,
many children develop traits
that are unlikeable or
They may become unruly,
defiant, disobedient,
obnoxious, demanding, hostile
or generally unpleasant. Even
though they have been a
primary cause of these
behaviors, parents find it
difficult to love or even like a
child who exhibits these
To summarize: Almost all
parents feel that they love their
children. But what parents feel
internally must have an
external component in actions
that are loving in order to have
a positive effect on their
children. Parents’ good
intentions are not a substitute
for nurturing love, which can
only be provided by a
psychologically healthy and
independent adult. Both the
intention and the capacity to
love are necessary to sustain
the small child in his or her
growth toward maturity.
The assumption that parents,
especially mothers, have a
“natural” love for their child is a
fundamental part of our belief
system—and the core of family
life and society. Very often this
myth has an adverse effect,
though, in that it leads to a
failure to challenge negative
behaviors within family life. It
also intensifies parents’ guilt.
These guilt feelings further
contaminate the situation for
those individuals who may be
unable, because of their own
upbringing, to provide their
children with the necessary
love and care they need.
Children do need and deserve
love, and we must provide it or
they will suffer emotional pain.
Recent research in the
neurosciences has shown that
the way parents interact (or fail
to interact) with children
becomes hardwired in their
children’s brains, often before
they are capable of formulating
words to describe what they are
experiencing. As they grow
older, children find numerous
ways of defending themselves
in order to relieve or numb
their pain. In the process of
dulling their pain, they close off
many aspects of themselves
and, to varying degrees,
become emotionally deadened.
Indeed, it would be better for
all concerned if the illusion of
unconditional parental love
were withdrawn from the
child‑rearing scene. It serves
no constructive purpose for
parents to conceal their
inadequacies from a child. An
honest acceptance of their
deficiencies would enable both
parent and child to cope with
reality devoid of additional
defensive pressure. With a
lessening of this pressure, and
the subsequent relaxation for
both parent and child, they may
even regain genuine loving
feelings and regard for one
Lastly, children whose parents
have, for the most part,
resolved their issues of trauma
and loss from the past have a
better chance. In
Compassionate Child-Rearing, I
described many parents who
came to understand and feel
for what had happened to them
as children. As a result, they
were able to develop more
compassion for their past, and
for their present-day
limitations. Regaining feeling
for themselves seemed to be
the key element that enabled
them to enjoy closer, more
sensitively attuned interactions
with their children and altered
their child-rearing practices in a
more loving, positive direction.



* boil beetroot till well cooked
* separetely steam mixed
veggies & set aside
* back to the beetroot
* when cooked, dice it
* in a pan add a bit of cooking oil
* fry your beetroot
* add in 3 tbsp viniger
* 2 tbsp suger
* let some till viniger goes dry &
bertroot goes back to being fried
* put your steamed mixed
* add in your beetroot
* add cubed raw red onion
* add cubed raw green pepper
* dress with sweet chilli sauce
NB: viniger & suger
measurements depends on the
bertroot u cooked